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Nneka Kelly's avatar

Happy Thanksgiving 🦃 Good on you for having the celebration you want with the level of effort that feels manageable to you.

I just declared that I’m not doing anything for Christmas after cooking yesterday for thanksgiving. I’m sure my mom is disappointed. But I’m taking them to Trinidad in the new year so hopefully I get some grace.

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Susan Marte's avatar

Thanks, Nneka. It can feel like too much, all the cooking, can't it? And yay for you about boundary setting for Christmas. It might come as a relief for all of you?? And I am sending you a whole bucketload of grace for taking them to Trinidad. I hope there is support for you there and it is heart filling for all of you. It's big.

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Lisa Weikel's avatar

I am grateful you have come to this place of serenity and grace with yourself and your mother. Thank you for sharing your life and your revelations with us. You have given your mother so much of yourself - and it really is a testament to your care and commitment that she has thrived to such an extent that she can be fully enjoying her new “home.”

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Susan Marte's avatar

Thanks, Lisa. Having her home, just for the few days, gave me two things: she is in the right place now and I have no idea how I managed caring for her for nearly three years. Wow.

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Amy Cowen's avatar

Wishing you a peaceful and reflective day today and then hoping everything goes smoothly with the family gathering (and boats) over the weekend.

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Susan Marte's avatar

Thanks, Amy. Everything went to plan and we all breathed a sigh of relief - most audibly my mother - on Monday when the boats did indeed run. She was so happy to get out of here she didn't even say goodbye!

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Lynne Holden's avatar

Happy Thanksgiving. Sending our love to you and family. We are spending the holidays in KY with Phyllis’s sister and nephew. Love

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Susan Marte's avatar

Thanks, Lynne. I hope you had a great time in KY. Looking forward to seeing you both next week.

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